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The last few weeks we've been speaking about goals, intentions, habits, and what we want to create for 2023. How's it going for you? What does it take to make it happen? In my own experience of life and watching clients, it's incredible what can shift in 12 months when we are connected, clear, and committed. What do I mean? 1. Connection - this is all about getting quiet and creating stillness & space in our daily life to listen. It's about creating an opening, a doorway, a portal to do the work of knowing thyself. It takes willingness and consistent effort to invest in the relationship we have with self. Act of Self-Love. 2. Clarity - once we are connected, we begin to ask ourselves the important questions that shape our life. As I've shared before, I use 5 categories: spiritualty, health, family, business, and contribution. We learn about who we are, and what matters NOW. We begin to let go of who we think we are, who we are forcing ourselves to be and /or who others want us to be. Act of Liberation. 3. Commitment - once we are connected and start getting some (yes, even a teeny tiny bit!) clarity, we must take consistent action. Nothing changes without aligned, inspired action. Act of Doing. You're worth it! I support you. Namaste, Stephanie  "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." -Martin Luther King Jr.
I love this quote. It beautifully exemplifies what MLK dedicated his life to, and now his legacy. His work reminds me about the importance of using our voice to advocate for what really matters to us. When I reflect back on my life, I realize of one of the greatest skills I have learned is how to gracefully navigate challenging, highly emotional charged interactions. I learned because I am dedicated to raising consciousness on the planet and enhancing well being for all people and animals. For a long time I didn't know how to speak up with grace. It cost me. Instead I showed up as a judging, intense, impatient, controlling, intellectual know it all. Instead of building up a relationship, I often did the opposite. Sometimes I even intimidated people! Why? I was allowing my emotions to rule me rather than inform me. I was "justifying" the rightness of my behavior because I felt my cause was sincere. I was reacting. I was creating divisiveness. The truth is - the divisiveness was within. I was frustrated at myself for not using my voice to effect positive change because I was both afraid and unskilled. Like most of us, as a child I didn't learn how to deal with my emotions in a healthy way. They were either repressed, and then I would blow up like a volcano. Or, I would stay silent and suffer internally. When I got tired of not getting the results I wanted, I was ready to learn new ways. If you're still reading, you may be wondering what those new ways are. I will break them down to 5. 1. I was willing to look in the mirror with compassion and forgiveness for myself and for others. I adopted the mantra, we are all doing our best, based on our level of awareness. We know better, we do better. 2. I was willing to change and give others the benefit of the doubt. I knew most of the time we could create a win/win if we could put our defenses down and find the shared value/vision/interest. 3. I was willing to be vulnerable - to actually be seen and heard without fear of rejection and abandonment. 4. I was willing to humbly stand in my power, grow up, and stop wasting time. 5. I was willing to get support in the areas I was unable to "see" & be held accountable. Being willing has paid off handsomely in all areas of my life. While I don't look for challenging interactions, they abound. Whether I am dealing with an unhappy client who disagrees with our policies or is unwilling to let us make it right, or asking my husband to take on more of the household chores, I strive to interact with grace. By grace I mean with compassion, kindness, love, respect, integrity, sincerity, forgiveness, and non-attachment if it goes sideways. After all, I can't (and frankly don't care to) control them. What I can control is how I show up. Imagine if we all learned how to communicate with grace? Imagine if we felt safe to speak up and felt safe to listen? As MLK teaches us, we must speak up and advocate for what matters. Remember-->It's HOW we do it that determines the impact. Namaste Fellow Travelers, Stephanie  Last week we talked about the experiences you want to have in 2023.
We shared how we break it down into 5 categories: Spirituality Health Family Business Contribution Feel free to use your own categories. Once we have our categories, we then get to set goals, intentions for them to manifest. How do we do that? What's the difference between a goal and an intention? Do we need to have both? In my experience, goals are great when we want to accomplish something specific in a given time range. For example, let's say we want to save down payment money to buy a house. For most of us, in order for that to happen we have to use the SMART formula of goal setting listed below. S = Specific (Goal is to save $100,000 for a 20% down payment on a $500,000 house) M = Measurable (Keep track of weekly/monthly savings towards goal) A = Action Oriented (Money needs to be set aside each week/month to achieve goal; other spending may have to be curbed) R = Realistic (What is current income & expense scenario? How much money can realistically be saved each week/month toward the $100,000 based on current scenario?) T = Time Bound (By when will the $100,000 be saved? The answer to this is based on above) Goals often cause us to ask "how". How do I do this? Most of the time we know "how" or we find out how. Goals are our desires with attachment to outcome. Meaning, we know what we want, and we know when we have it. If we don't get it, we may feel a sense of loss. Intentions are great when we have aspirations and desires that are aligned with our soul. Intentions are desires without attachment to outcome. Intentions are often less about the "how". Oftentimes we don't know the "how" and that is normal and okay. Many people don't like that part! With intentions, instead of using a SMART formula per se, we declare what we want and then allow life to show us the way. In other words, we seed our intention, we feed it, and then leave it. We seed it by declaring it and visualizing it. We feed it by taking consistent action steps towards it. We leave it by releasing attachment to outcome and trusting that our actions and their consequences will guide us on the path to highest and best. At times I have used both goals and intentions such as when I was saving for a house. Setting SMART goals helped me do my financial due diligence. Setting intentions helped me align the vision I had for a home with my soul. It turned out amazing. Not only did I reach my financial goals, I surpassed them. What's even more incredible and magical is I ended up moving to the beach, on the same street where I spent summers with my ancestors. The houses in this area almost never come up for sale. More to that story another time. These days I use mostly intentions to manifest. For me it feels more natural, fun, powerful, and is aligned with my soul. I have learned there is no right or wrong way. The more you know yourself, you will find the way that works best. Back to those 5 categories mentioned above. What are your goals and/or intentions for your categories this year? If you want to share, I'd love to know! >>>Email Me Here  Last week we talked about a year end reflection ritual we do to ignite our thoughts about the New Year.
If you missed it, you can find the link here. This week, after you have completed the reflection exercise, start to think about the experiences you want to have in 2023. We usually break it down into 5 categories: -Spirituality -Health -Family -Business -Contribution Feel free to use your own categories. Next we will talk about the difference between goals, intentions, and how to manifest what you want. |
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