 "You need not leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. You need not even listen, simply wait. You need not even wait, just learn to become quiet, and still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet." -Franz Kafka
Some of the happiest people I know take time daily to be still. It's simply part of their daily self care habits. Daily meaning everyday...not when we "feel" like it or have the "time". Why Does Stillness Matter? In stillness lives your connection to yourself, your desires...your truth. In stillness lies your connection to pure potential and the creativity of the universe of which we are a part. Stillness practiced consistently, over time, creates incredible inner movement. Inner movement generates and attracts outer movement. In fact, the more still we become, the more things move "on their own" to support exactly what we need/want/desire.. without having to put forth as much effort. Magic? Maybe. More like magnetism. How do we become still? A few ways: 1. Disconnect from all tech including book reading, listening to music, and watching TV for a period of time. 2. Walk in nature, in silence. 3. Practice Non Judgement to quiet the noisy labeling, analytical mind. 4. Silent Meditation ... one of our favorites >>>Meditation Benefits >>>Book Meditation Session  "Time is the only commodity we cannot retrieve." -SF
There was a time when I prided myself on always being busy. I guess in some ways it made me feel important, fulfilled, worthy, and safe. It also allowed me not to hear the deeper voice within saying stop, slow down...listen...enjoy. I share more about that journey in my book Reclaiming Joy. These days I pride myself on having space, slowing down, and not being too busy. Amazing the transformation! When I push to old ways, my nervous system goes into overdrive and I get cranky. Old habits die hard. How about you? Are you making time for you? Are you making time for what matters to you? Working at the Sanctuary is a constant reminder of how taking time for self care is an act of courage that always renews and refreshes. I never had a day when I said to myself, "wow, I wish I hadn't meditated or gotten that massage. When you refill your tank, it's much easier and more enjoyable to be in service to others...and isn't that the whole point? >>>View Services  Many of us are experiencing the fatigue that comes with life -- and life transitions.
The "transitions" we (and our loved ones) are experiencing can be related to back to school, back to work, back to life in perhaps a "new" way. If we aren't mindful we will take on both what they are feeling in addition to what we are feeling!!! Yup, it's "a lot". With fatigue often comes other emotions that can derail us like frustration, lack of clarity...feeling disconnected and afraid. How do we handle these life transitions with courage, grace, and curiosity? Slow down. You might be thinking that's impossible with "so much to do". It starts with slowing down our thoughts, and being present with what is. I spoke about this last week in the BRFWA practice I shared. This practice is designed to help us manage our emotions. In addition, times of transition and change often bring about "anxious" energy. While it's not always pleasant, the discomfort that comes with newness and the unknown is normal. As I've written about in the past, especially as it relates to "anxious energy", at times it is hard to discern what we are feeling and where / who it is coming from. This is why it's important to slow down and quiet the mind. Rest assured, you are not alone. It is simply part of being human :) What else can we do? Embrace ways of being that return us to a state of emotional balance...also known as equanimity. As I talk about in Chapter Two of my book Reclaiming JOY, the emotional roller coaster is not sustainable and keeps us stuck. We react and often cause more turmoil. >>>Looking for more support? Consider cultivating an on-going meditation practice or booking Sanctuary TLC. >>>Want to go deeper? Book an Akashic Record Reading. We support you, Stephanie  Last week I spoke about turning 50 last year and the emotional roller coaster of hormonal changes. If you missed it, read on here.
Here's the thing - all of us have emotions. Some of us have a more challenging time managing them! Some of us don't manage (or even feel) them at all! Whatever the case, I have come back to the simple practice of BRFWA time and again to help. This simple presence practice, that we love and use often at the Sanctuary, brings us back to a relaxed state where our emotions can be "managed". While we may still have "feelings", we are able to ride the emotional wave without drowning in it / losing ourselves for too long / making "bad" choices. BRFWA stands for Breathe. Relax. Feel. Watch. Allow. BRFWA Explained (Give yourself at least 5 minutes to experience this): Breathe: As a wave of emotion comes over you, slow down your breath. Allow your breath to flow freely in and out. Relax: As you slow down your breath, your mind and body will begin to relax. Soften your muscles, let go of mental and physical tension. Feel: As you relax, you are able to soften into what you are feeling. Stay open to the sensations and emotions moving through you in this moment. Watch: While feeling, you watch your experience closely, neither grasping what is pleasant nor pushing away what is painful. Allow: As you watch, you allow the process to unfold. You accept yourself and your experience exactly as it is, dropping the need to change it in any way. BRWFA is the practice of being present with what is. Being present is what we learn and get to practice during meditation. Meditation helps us realize we can choose to be OK -- even if we don't "feel" OK. When we are truly able to relax, no matter who and no matter what, everything shifts. >>>If you're looking for more support with this, please consider joining my spiritual book club next month.  When I turned 50 last year, the emotional roller coaster of hormonal changes started, big time!
In addition to holistic and medical remedies, I was (and continue to be) challenged on learning how to really let go...of control, judgment, frustration, etc. Why? Sometimes nothing really works, or at least nothing works for that long. Perhaps some of you know what I am saying. The emotional range goes from peace to anxiety then to joy and depression, sometimes all in one day! Combine this experience with resistance, brain fog, fatigue, and those hot flashes, and wow! What a recipe for disaster. What can we do? 1. Education & Support Get educated about what is happening hormonally in your body, and get the necessary support. 2. Stay Present Meaning, we accept what we are experiencing, even if we don't like it. We are observing our experience. We are allowing our emotions to come up and move out without resistance or judgment or even having to "understand" and "fix". Until we are aware of, and accept, this emotional loop, nothing will change. Once the energy of resistance and judgment is freed up, we consciously choose to focus our attention on dealing with the emotional loop. 3. Redirect Your Attention In this step you redirect your attention on things such as being compassionate with yourself (and others!), and saying kind things to yourself out loud. You can say things like, "I am safe, This will pass, I am loved, I am supported, I am not alone." By doing this, you will change your relationship with the emotional loops. Remember, the mind doesn't know the difference between a real event happening now, or an imagined event, either past or future. When you speak kindly to yourself in the present moment, you will begin to relax. Once you relax, and clarity returns, ask yourself is there is anything you need to do in this moment to feel peace and love? Then do it. Maybe you need to call a friend, cry, or simply be still. >>>If you're looking for more support, consider booking an akashic record reading with me. |
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