The past few Mind the Gap Podcast episodes have been about relationships and how having an understanding of ego and how to deal with it as it relates to your pain body is important for success.
What are you noticing?
Are you processing, integrating, applying the wisdom?
Are you being compassionate to yourself in the process?
In this weeks episode Stephanie shares a powerful process of reflective writing to help you better understand the mechanism behind the pain body so that you can begin to release it.
Stephanie gives suggestions on what to write about. For example, maybe you will be inspired to write about a recent pain body flare up. What triggered it, including the sequence of thoughts and events that followed? The process takes less than an hour. Why do it? The combination of reflection and writing is how we learn, grow, and let go.
Stephanie also gives a few pointers on how to notice when you are acting from ego and pain body by noticing what happens in your physical, mental, and emotional body.
Remember, you are the creator of your life. What you think, you create. What you create you become. Makes sense to choose wisely, doesn't it?
You can also use this reflective writing process as an opportunity to get clear on what you do want to create such as healthy, enjoyable, prospering relationships!
The practice of reflective writing brings awareness to what you need to transform in order to experience the freedom of being the best version of yourself. It is from this place that you will attract the best into your life. Be the best, attract the best. Got it?
Listen closely. Be kind. Do the work :) Let's go! Listen Here.
Ego In Relationships
Are you aware of your ego & how it impacts your relationships?
It can be impossible to understand and navigate your ego, without knowing exactly what it is - but this natural part of all of us doesn't have to be such a mystery...
And what if I told you nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know?
Does that help you understand why certain patterns continue to show up in your relationships and in life?
Fascinating questions...all pointing to deeper levels of understanding if we choose to see them as such...and to answer them.
In this week's Mind the Gap Podcast, Stephanie continues the relationship conversation by introducing you to another concept: ego.
You may be thinking, what is ego and how does it impact relationships?
Simply said, our ego shows up whenever we are identified with something: a role, relationship, thing...
As such, understanding ego and how it shows up in relationship can be complicated.
Since awareness is the foundation for transformation, how do we know when we are caught in the grip of ego?
Some key examples include:
*arguing/conflict/drama as a theme in our life
*need to be right, making another person wrong
*identifying with mental positions/beliefs, keeping us stuck and closed to another's point of view
*emotional pain that feels disproportionately large compared to the event/situation (pain body)
Stephanie discusses each of the above and introduces you to the concept of "pain body", as taught by Eckhart Tolle.
According to Eckhart, "the pain body is an energy field within you that sporadically takes you over because it needs to experience more emotional pain for it to feed on and replenish itself. It will try to control your thinking and make it deeply negative. It loves your negative thoughts, since it resonates with their frequency and so can feed on them. It will also provoke negative emotional reactions in the people close to you, especially your partner, in order to feed on the ensuing drama and emotional pain."
Clearly having an understanding of ego and how to deal with it as it relates to our pain body is important!!
So, why does ego show up? It's part of the human condition my friends.
Understanding ego and how it works will help you cultivate deeper and healthier relationships both with yourself and others.
In this juicy episode Stephanie helps demystify ego by explaining in more detail what ego is, how to identify it (especially in relationship), learn from it, and what to do when we are caught in its grip.
Let's GO Ego...Let Go!!! Listen Here.
In last weeks Mind the Gap Episode 20 on Healthy Relationships, Stephanie encouraged you to look at how you are being in relationship.
What did you learn?
The deep dive into relationships continues in this episode as Stephanie shares ways to achieve success...to get what you want in all relationships.
She speaks candidly about how and why your underlying beliefs (both conscious and unconscious) keep you stuck in patterns that destroy the very thing you are wanting to create...loving relationships.
What you will find eye opening is that you don't even realize you are part of the problem!
In a culture that loves to play victim and the blame game, Stephanie invites you to stop, make a new choice, step into your power, and go for what you want.
In other words, "Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself."-Robert Bennett
Let's Love! Listen Here.
"When we can no longer hide behind a role, we are pushed to present ourselves and then run the risk of real intimacy." -Anne Wilson Schaef
Why do they seem so hard for some of us?
It's no surprise on Stephanie's Mind the Gap Podcast Episode 3 On Relationships has been the most popular one so far. Well, of course it has!
Everything we experience in life is relational...whether we are dealing with personal relationships or professional ones, this is a hot topic and an area of life we all want to improve upon in some way.
In this week's episode, Stephanie takes you on a deeper dive into what it means to have a healthy relationship, the obstacles we face, and what we can do about it.
When it comes right down to it, if we want that amazing relationship, the question is, are we being amazing our self?
Tune in. Let's go! Listen Here.