Ego In Relationships
Are you aware of your ego & how it impacts your relationships?
It can be impossible to understand and navigate your ego, without knowing exactly what it is - but this natural part of all of us doesn't have to be such a mystery...
And what if I told you nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know?
Does that help you understand why certain patterns continue to show up in your relationships and in life?
And do you ever notice how the ego energy is contagious? Sometimes it seems everyone is operating from ego and there is no peace..
Fascinating questions...all pointing to deeper levels of understanding if we choose to see them as such...and to answer them.
What is ego and how does it impact relationships?
Simply said, our ego shows up whenever we are identified with something: a role, relationship, thing, viewpoint, etc.
When this happens, some of us get angry, explosive even, and react. Others shut down. We get the exact opposite outcome most of us long for which is peace, love, understanding...happiness.
Understanding ego and how it shows up in relationship can be complicated. Yet if we want peaceful relationships, it does us well to learn about ego. In this way, when it shows up, we can respond instead of react.
Since awareness is the foundation for transformation, how do we know when we are caught in the grip of ego?
Key examples include:
*arguing/conflict/drama as a theme in our life
*need to be right, making another person wrong
*identifying with mental positions/beliefs, keeping us stuck and closed to another's point of view
*emotional pain that feels disproportionately large compared to the event/situation (pain body)
*anger, outbursts, emotional reactivity including disconnecting and avoiding
*in some cases physical violence
To help you understand ego, I discuss each of the above and introduce you to the concept of "pain body", as taught by Eckhart Tolle in my podcast episode (link below).
According to Eckhart, "the pain body is an energy field within you that sporadically takes you over because it needs to experience more emotional pain for it to feed on and replenish itself. It will try to control your thinking and make it deeply negative. It loves your negative thoughts, since it resonates with their frequency and so can feed on them. It will also provoke negative emotional reactions in the people close to you, especially your partner, in order to feed on the ensuing drama and emotional pain."
Clearly, having an understanding of ego and how to deal with it as it relates to our pain body is important!!
Why does ego show up? It's part of the human condition my friends.
Understanding ego and how it works will help you cultivate deeper and healthier relationships both with yourself and others.
In this juicy episode I help demystify ego by explaining in more detail what ego is, how to identify it (especially in relationship), learn from it, and what to do when we are caught in its grip.
Let's GO Ego...Let Go!!!
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What is your relationship to power?
All of us have witnessed and colluded with power in 3 ways:
abuse, misuse, avoid.
In this podcast episode, Stephanie shares what it means to own our power and why avoiding stepping into it is actually a form of abusing power.
Stephanie explains what it means to be a powerful loving presence and also be vulnerable.
She shares her journey of feeling dis-empowered and how it has inspired her to be a force for empowerment in the world.
With awareness and ownership of our power, we can activate it and take a stand in our life for what really matters.
In this episode of Mind the Gap Stephanie acknowledges, affirms, and reminds you — you are good enough! 💯
Many of us start out setting goals for our life and when the obstacles / challenge arise we want to quit or we do quit. Example- we say we want the loving partnership - maybe we even date— and yet we are “still” alone because we say “there’s no good men/women” available.
Really! No way. That’s a limiting belief. Somewhere in our subconscious we believe there is lack/not enough good people. Maybe we even feel we aren’t good enough (attractive enough/ young enough, smart enough) yet we “blame” it on something else.
Unless we are aware of our limiting beliefs, in this case, we will continue to be alone.
Here’s the deal. We all have Limiting beliefs. I am not good enough is one that most of us carry. It goes back to childhood and extends / gets energized in adulthood.
Stephanie discusses why / how these beliefs show up and what to do to free yourself of them!
She also offers coaching support to help you uncover and clear these limiting beliefs and the negative energy associated with them so you can manifest the life of your dreams.
You’re doing great. Keep going! You’re good enough. Let’s celebrate that! Let’s go.
"Be grateful for the sleepless nights because they help us awaken..." - Stephanie
What is spiritual awakening?
Why does it hurt so much at times?
How can we live our current life while also moving and growing into new ways of being?
In this Mind the Gap Podcast episode, Stephanie shares how to use life as a spiritual practice, and what is required to build a foundation of support as you begin to "wake up".
She shares that sleepless nights point to underlying things that are trying to get our attention... Stress doesn't wake us up. Stress is simply a result of what is out of balance in our life.
Stephanie also gives ways to navigate the gap while growing from where you are -- to where you want to be.
Valentine's Day is coming.
What better time to reflect on the relationships in your life?
And not just the romantic ones but those throughout your life and perhaps most importantly, with yourself.
>>>LISTEN NOW >>> Episode 30: Best of Relationships