Summer Self Care by Stephanie
“What you do for yourself-any gesture of kindness, any gesture of gentleness, any gesture of honesty and clear seeing toward yourself-will affect how you experience your world.” -Pema Chodron
Nourish Body, Mind & Spirit
Summer is the perfect time to slow down and notice where you need to be "fed", aka, practice self care. Nobody can do this for us. And if we don't do this for ourselves, we risk becoming resentful, contracted, and unhappy! We must feed ourselves in order to feed others.
As I spoke about last week, we are in charge of our own happiness and this includes on going self care. Give yourself permission to do what makes you feel good. You're worth it.
Top 5 Picks to Nourish Body, Mind & Spirit:
Massage - From therapeutic and deep tissue massage to relaxing massage, it's one of the oldest healing modalities. Massage can relax muscles, soothe aches and pains, release energy blockages, rejuvenate body, mind and spirit.
Yoga - Yoga promotes inner and outer health & well-being. In addition to improving physical health: flexibility, strength, balance, pain management, yoga is a powerful tool in personal transformation. Yoga has been shown to decrease stress, helping with anxiety and PTSD, while improving our mood and outlook on life.
Meditation- We get 2 choices: medicate or meditate. From managing stress, anxiety, and PTSD to cultivating a deeper sense of inner peace and well-being, meditation can help.
Energy Healing - Chakra Balancing is an energetic healing technique that works holistically on the body, mind and spirit from the inside out. Major systems of the body are restored with life-force energy to promote body's natural ability to heal. Chakras will be cleared and re-balanced so you feel lighter and empowered.
Reading List - Self-enrichment is one of the keys to growth.
Our top 5:
-Untethered Soul by Michael Singer -- We are all trying to be okay. Guess what? You already are!
-Reclaiming Joy by Stephanie Filardi -- 4 Steps, when applied, to live happy, healthy, free.
-A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle -- Awakening to your life's purpose and then some!
-A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson -- Love is a potent force and the key to peace...in relationships, work, life...
-Women, Food & God by Geneen Roth -- How we eat teaches us volumes about our life. Time to stop the battle with food and deeply listen.
Namaste. And so it is. Choice. I've been pondering choices lately. I am not so much interested in sharing the types of choices in this space. I am more interested in sharing a concept: choice is life.
What do I mean? Well, consider it. Aren't our choices, both the small ones and the big ones, what make up the fabric of our life?
Whether we did or didn't want something to happen, we are still in a position to choose. We may choose what to "do" next. We may choose what "not" to do next. Or perhaps we may choose being over doing. Meaning, we choose to be peace, positive, possibility...and allow our being to inform our doing.
When we are rooted in being infinite peace and love, we are clear and confident in our choice, no matter what we choose. These are the choices that are life affirming and life altering. Choice is life.
If you have not yet seen the movie "The Choice" I suggest watching. It captures the power of our choices and how they impact our life so beautifully. A love story, no doubt...based on a book by Nicholas Sparks. The story plays out based on choices made as well as those not made...
Today during yoga I was reminded again that not choosing is also a choice, and a very powerful one. Not choosing happens in 2 ways.
The first way is by making a conscious decision not to choose. The second way is by being unaware of what we are not aware of and having habitual patterns/ways of being choose for us.
Think of it as sleepwalking through life or allowing other peoples expectations to control us.
Notice if you are falling into judgment or blame after reading this. Exhale and see it for what it is. Learning. Choice is life. All experience is an opportunity to awaken so we may choose differently.
My prayer is that we continue to expand our awareness with practices like yoga and meditation and also by having friends and mentors who lovingly hold up the mirror for us.
As we expand our awareness to include all of our choices, may we have the courage to choose the options before us that are life affirming. May we choose the options that help us become the best version of our self.
May we create a life filled with so much peace, love, joy, and gratitude that it overflows to all who cross our path.
Choice is Life. Our Choice is Our Life.
Valentine's Day is 2 weeks away. It's one of our favorite occasions here at the Sanctuary.
We love to love & Valentine's Day is a reminder of why we are here. More than ever, we believe taking care of ourselves is an act of self-love that keeps on giving.
From our own self-love, all other love grows. In fact, the ability to nourish ourselves first enables us to effectively (aka without resentment) nourish others.
And as Stephanie writes, you must Save Yourself First.
Here are 4 Ways to Plug into our LOVE:
1. Treat Yourself to a Sanctuary Service.
Enjoy the familiar and try something new...Book Now.
2. Give Sanctuary Love with a Gift Certificate.
Favorites: Be Well Package, Restore & Renew, Couples Massage...or simply gift a dollar amount & let your loved one decide.
3. Attend Stephanie's Manifesting Love Event
Next Tuesday, Feb 6th, 6:30pm @BWS
Embark on a Meditative Journey through the Chakras to Release what gets in the way of Manifesting the Love you want. Learn More & RSVP.
4. Register for Reclaiming Joy Retreat Information Session via Phone
Next Wednesday, Feb 7th, 12pm-1pm EST
Looking for more information about Stephanie's Retreat? If so, join Stephanie and Jeannie for an informational & inspiring phone call. Learn about what to expect, what others are saying, and why now. RSVP Here.
"Reforming You" Panel: Celebrating National Mental Health Awareness Week
You're Invited to Attend
a discussion about self-discovery and wellness with:
Stephanie Filardi, Rochelle Rice, Lindsay Fertig-Johnson and Jacqui Justice
October 2, 2017 at 7pm
Sommer Center at Concordia College
Click here to register
Stephanie Filardi, author of Reclaiming Joy is a speaker, mentor, co-founder of Bronxville Wellness Sanctuary and the creative visionary behind www.thrivingyouthrivinglife.com, her online educational and private mentoring platform dedicated to the advancement of her mission to help more people consciously create joy filled thriving lives.
Rochelle Rice is a speaker, author and educator - with a passion for moving women toward their highest potential.
Deaconess Lindsay Fertig-Johnson was consecrated in January of 2017 with the Lutheran Deaconess Association. She serves as Campaign Coordinator for Institutional Advancement at Concordia College New York.
Jacqui Justice is a nutritionist specializing in Weight Loss Resistance, Digestive Wellness and Energy Enhancement.
Finding Our Way, by Stephanie
In the next few weeks, many of us will experience "transitions" as we head back to school, back to work, back to life…back to "reality".
In addition to this time of transition and change, many of us are feeling the heightened energy around us. It's real. For some, it's really hard to ignore and/or overcome.
During these times of transition and heightened energy sometimes we lose our way. We may be riding the roller coaster of feelings: depressed, overwhelmed, tired, confused, afraid...anything but relaxed!
How do we Find Our Way?
By returning to emotional balance...equanimity.
As I talk about in Chapter Two of my book Reclaiming JOY, the emotional roller coaster is not sustainable and keeps us stuck. We react and often cause more turmoil.
This simple practice, called BRFWA, brings us back to a relaxed state where our emotions are in balance.
From this place of emotional balance or equanimity, we are able to ride the emotional wave without drowning in it. In equanimity we find our way back to peace and clarity. Once clear, we are able to take action that keeps us on the path of peace.
Breathe: As a wave of emotion comes over you, slow down your breath. Allow your breath to flow freely in and out.
Relax: As you slow down your breath, your mind and body will begin to relax. Soften your muscles, let go of mental and physical tension.
Feel: As you relax, you are able to soften into what you are feeling. Stay open to the sensations and emotions moving through you in this moment.
Watch: While feeling, you watch your experience closely, neither grasping what is pleasant nor pushing away what is painful.
Allow: As you watch, you allow the process to unfold. You accept yourself and your experience exactly as it is, dropping the need to change it in any way.
BRWFA is the practice of being present. Being present is what we learn during meditation.
Looking for more support? Consider cultivating an on-going meditation practice.
When things heat up this summer, in addition to drinking plenty of fluids, preferably water, there are other ways to keep your energy levels balanced.
First, what do we mean by balanced energy?
No question we are living in tumultuous times. There is much change, and as such many of us are feeling the effects. If you are an em-path, you are feeling the effects even more.
Whether we feel the effects physically, mentally and/or emotionally, it all comes down to energy. As a result, some of us feel drained, tired...lazy, not motivated and we need to gain energy.
Others of us feel wired and perhaps even scattered and unable to focus. As such our energy needs to be pulled back or "in" and re-directed.
How do we bring energy back into balance?
With an Energy Healing Session. During a session, the intention is to restore energy back to balance.
At BWS we offer Shamanic Energy Healing Sessions with Stephanie and Reiki Healing Session with Maggie.
While both are forms of energy healing, there are differences. The truth is, to feel the difference, you have to experience a session. Afterward, you will know what resonates with you.
In the meantime, Stephanie explains Shamanic Energy Healing as a way to deeply uncover, uproot and reset the entire body in order to live the life we were meant to live - a JOYFUL one. As she shares in Chapter Two of her book Reclaiming JOY,shamanic energy healing helped Stephanie release her fear of living the life she desired.
Maggie describes Reiki Energy Healing as raising your vibration level, helping you move out of whatever feels "stuck" into a place of expansiveness, freedom and choice. Summer is a time for play, and Reiki can help you connect to your inner child.
Interested in booking an energy healing session?
Call: 914.337.9356 or Book online
Dare to Dream by Stephanie
Last week Kamesh spoke about what it means to have abundant health, practice radical self care and enjoy the awesome adventure of life! Did you do the practice? What did you notice?
This week I invite you to continue the process by daring to dream.
Why? In my experience of life, there are occasions when it would seem so logical to stay where we are, when we are unhappy. The truth is, we are meant for so much more.
When we begin to understand that it is fear of: loss, the unknown, what others may think or say, etc that keeps us stuck, we are at a critical choice point. We either choose to take responsibility for the direction our life, or not. If we don't take responsibility, fear will control our life and keep us unhappy. If however, we choose to take responsibility for our life, we admit we have had enough. We commit to take control back by learning from our fears. Learning fuels us and we begin to allow ourselves to dream.
At this stage of my life, there is simply no other way for me to live. As many of you know, I have dedicated my life to helping others THRIVE. That's my medicine, my life purpose, why I am here!! This wisdom is what keeps me on the path, even when I want so badly to be asleep and not feel. I bet some of you are nodding yes? Great, let us stick together please!
It's funny really. Over the years people have watched me Reclaim Joy. Some have said, "You are lucky/special/old soul/wise". While it is well meaning, thank you, it agitates me. Guess what? I am not! I am dedicated to living my truth. That truth includes the reality that we teach what we most need to learn. I am not lucky. I am teaching and learning, like you.
Here's what I will say. When you dare to dream, you open yourself to new possibility. With support, you stay the on the path. When you get to the end of your life, you will look back, and have no regrets. To me, this is the gift of being alive. And everyday is a new day to begin again. No matter what your age or stage.
Here at the Sanctuary Our Mission is to provide the space for all beings to thrive. Our services, events, staff, and yes, those yummy snacks are all here to support you to be your best.
We are all unique and require different support- pampering with a Massage or Facial; balancing energy with Reiki or Acupuncture; easing the mind with Meditation; connecting with others in a Full Moon Ceremony on Jan 12th. And sometimes, we are at a major crossroads in life and need deeper, more consistent support with private mentoring. Whatever it is, we support you!
I want to close by sharing with you what a recent client had to say,
"I am new to the area and was looking for services that were high quality, while also not overpriced. I can honestly say that I booked my appointment online and wasn't sure what to expect, but that I was SO happy once I arrived to the very zen space BWS created. I saw Elizabeth for my facial, and she did such a thorough job-- it's been five days and my skin looks amazing. Kate did my massage and even a week later I can feel the benefits. I will definitely be back!! -Christine Q. on 1/2/2017
This is what inspires us to keep going!!! Thank you from the depths of our hearts.
Stop by for the Sister Act book signing at Bronxville Wellness Sanctuary, Saturday Decemeber 10, 2016 during the 5 Year Anniversary & Client Appreciation Party and get pampered too!
Who is the Sister Act you ask?
Sam Desmond, Editor-in-Chief at HICONCEPT MAGAZINE shares more:
"Both published authors, sisters Christine (Stewart, Tabori, & Chang) andStephanie (Thriving You, Thriving Life) have had divergent, but culminating paths. Extraordinary women, both Filardi sisters were deeply impacted by the unexpected death of their father in 2004. Rising from tragedy, Christine and Stephanie both started on their respective journeys towards self-acceptance and self-sacrifice for the well-being of others.
Excerpts from their books are accompanied by artwork that expands upon the Filardi sisters’ messages of optimism through diligence...continue reading
WHAT IF YOU...by Stephanie
On Thanksgiving I shared this on Facebook. I feel it's something to be reminded of daily...
My wish is that YOU take a moment to be grateful for yourself--for who you are-- and the small steps you take everyday to get up and move forward, no matter what circumstances you face.
Think kindly upon yourself. Everyday upon rising fill your mind with thoughts of gratitude, grace, compassion, self-love. Our thoughts do become our life.
This said, I am reminded of a passage from page 43 of my book, Reclaiming Joy:
"At our core we are light, not dark. While we may have shadow aspects of ourselves that we consider to be dark, this is NOT who we are. As we stay committed to reclaiming joy...to allowing ourselves to be who we are, we realize the light is always there. The light patiently waits for us to stop, look, and listen- to stop driving and start thriving. The light is what pulls us forward. The light is what illuminates the dark. And, yes, we do need both. We would not "know" one without the other. My friends, it is in the space of acceptance where we transform our perspective and therefore our thoughts of darkness into light."