 "The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… These are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence." Confucius
The last few weeks we've been speaking about goals, intentions, habits, and what we want to create for 2023. How's it going for you? What does it take to make it happen? In my own experience of life and watching clients, it's incredible what can shift in 12 months when we are connected, clear, and committed. What do I mean? 1. Connection - this is all about getting quiet and creating stillness & space in our daily life to listen. It's about creating an opening, a doorway, a portal to do the work of knowing thyself. It takes willingness and consistent effort to invest in the relationship we have with self. Act of Self-Love. 2. Clarity - once we are connected, we begin to ask ourselves the important questions that shape our life. As I've shared before, I use 5 categories: spiritualty, health, family, business, and contribution. We learn about who we are, and what matters NOW. We begin to let go of who we think we are, who we are forcing ourselves to be and /or who others want us to be. Act of Liberation. 3. Commitment - once we are connected and start getting some (yes, even a teeny tiny bit!) clarity, we must take consistent action. Nothing changes without aligned, inspired action. Act of Doing. You're worth it! I support you. Namaste, Stephanie  What have you done lately to nourish you?
At the Sanctuary our mission is to give you an experience of deep nourishment for body, mind, and spirit. Whether you are coming for massage, energy healing, or a yummy facial, we LOVE supporting you in re-filling your well. Maybe you want to try a new service, or combine them? Whatever you decide, we are here to answer any questions and guide you on your path to Sanctuary. >>>Explore Sanctuary Services >>>Give the Gift of Sanctuary with a Gift Certificate  I have found understanding how anxiety "works" is a key component in dealing with it. Once we understand it, we are able to "deal" with it effectively. And we are also better able to be compassionate toward ourselves and others.
Here's how I understand the anxiety. 1. Trigger Something (situation) or someone (person) outside our control provokes us. What or who provokes us is the "trigger". I use quotes around the word trigger because when we dive deeper into our subconscious we realize the trigger is actually a belief that no longer serves us. More on that another time! Let's take an example of a trigger: Example: Family Gathering In this case both the gathering (something/situation) and family (someone/person/people) may be at play. Even before we get to the gathering, we start to feel anxiety in the present. Our thoughts and emotions start gaining (usually negative) momentum as we project into the "future" what we "think" will happen based on the "past". Why does this happen (write this one down!)? The mind doesn't know the difference between a real event happening now, or an imagined event, either past or future. Once we are "triggered", what happens next? 2. Behavior - Mental & Emotional We may feel contracted, jittery, confused, angry, fearful, overall, not good! These emotions feed our thoughts. We think things such as, "this is going to be miserable", "I don't want to see this person", etc, etc. We get ourselves all worked up because the thoughts we are having in the present, about the past, we are now projecting into the future. These negative/catastrophic type thoughts that are rooted in past experience cause us to think the future experience will be the same. These thoughts continue to feed our feelings and voila, we are officially in the anxiety loop. There's "nowhere" to go when we are in this loop except deeper down the rabbit hole. We may act out by not going to the gathering at all (avoiding behavior) or create drama (attacking behavior) leading up to or even at the gathering. Note: Other avoidance behaviors include abusing alcohol & drugs, smoking, overworking, overeating, etc. Why do we do this to our self? Wouldn't it make sense to simply learn healthy and effective ways to deal with our "triggers"? Yes! However, until we rewire our brain, the trigger elicits a behavior that feels like a reward/payoff. 3. Payoff In this case of the family gathering, if we take the avoidance track, the "payoff" can be anything from making others wrong, now we are victims -- to the attacking track with a payoff of we are right and defending our point of view. There are many more variations of this and our payoffs. That said, usually the payoff is connected to being right, looking good, staying comfortable, and being in control (AKA Ego). Once again I use quotes around the word payoff because in truth it isn't a true reward. We still haven't faced the root of the anxiety. We have merely put a band aid on it. Is this starting to sound familiar? Now what? Learn how to deal with the anxiety "trigger". Keep in mind "trigger" can also be our thoughts about the never ending to do lists at home, at work...in life as well as comparing ourselves to others. Our triggers vary and are many! How to Deal: 1. Presence / Awareness I use the words presence and awareness interchangeably. For me these words means being aware of what is happening in the present moment without resistance or judgment. Meaning, we accept what we are thinking and feeling, even if we don't like it. We are observing our experience. Until we are aware of and accept this anxiety loop, nothing will change. Once the energy of resistance and judgment is freed up, we consciously choose to focus our attention on dealing with the anxiety loop. The trigger is there, at least for now. Accept it. Now it's time to re-evaluate the payoff. Is it really a payoff? 2. Reassess Ask yourself if avoiding or attacking behavior is really what feels good? Is that how you want to live? Avoiding or attacking? Perhaps there is a better way. Ask yourself if you can be absolutely sure, meaning 100% sure the payoffs are working for you. Spoiler alert: it's likely these payoffs are also directing other areas of your life. If you can find even a .00000001% chance that there is a better way keep reading. 3. Redirect Even a sliver of possibility that there is a better way to manage the anxiety loop is an incredible start. Good for you! Acknowledge yourself for that. In this step you get to redirect your attention on things such as observing your experience, being compassionate with yourself (and others!) and changing your relationship with those payoffs. Meaning, you realize they are not in fact payoffs. In truth these "payoffs" actually keep you trapped in the trigger and therefore the anxiety loop. If you resonate with this, and would like additional support on any of the above, please reach out. I am passionate about showing people how to experience more health, happiness, and freedom to live the life of their dreams. Peaceful, prospering, connected...thriving. Thanks for "listening". We go this! Stephanie >>>Email me here. >>>Book an energy session to clear it!  As I've delved deeper into my being, freeing myself of that which doesn't bring me JOY, I realized something.
Your energy IS your #1 asset. Think about it. If you have all the means in the world, yet you lack energy to live your life, what's the point? If you don't (yet) have the means you want, and you lack the energy, now that's an even harder path. I break down energy flow as input and output. Input = energy you take in. Output = energy you give out. If you are engaging with life and taking in energy which makes you feel "good/energized/expansive", yay for you! You are more likely to give out the goodness too! On the contrary, if you are engaging with life and taking in energy which makes you feel "bad/drained/contracted", you may want to delve deeper as to "what and why". In this case, you are also more likely to give out this "bad" energy. Giving and receiving are one and the same. Yikes, right!! Don't fret. The key is to understand energy. With understanding you regain control by taking inspired action. For simplicity, how you engage with life in the 3 main areas below will reveal how you are either feeding your energy or depleting it. Body - Physical Stuff Examples Include: Food, Vitamins, Sleep, Movement, Self Care Routine -- Think nourishment for your body! As a rule, the better quality food, vitamins and sleep, the better energy you will have. As for movement-- the key is consistent, often, and enjoyable!! Movement is the fastest way to shift your energy. Self-care routines are the ways you take care of your "vessel" with rejuvenating practices like massage, yoga, walking in nature, silence...whatever makes you feel nourished. PS: If you need help with vitamins, ask me here. I've been taking them for 20 years. Mind - Mental / Emotional Stuff Examples Include: Mental discipline, Emotional Regulation -- Think calm mind and balanced emotions For many of us, the amount of mental and emotional energy we expend on stress, worry, fear, and doubt is draining. This area is often the hardest to "get under control". With consistent practice, it's the most powerful for transformation. What to do? Practices like meditation help tremendously as they help us quiet the mind. Yes, a good workout often shifts your mood, yet I have found it is short term. For long term success, a consistent meditation practice is suggested. Note: If mental and emotional stuff is a result of relationship challenges, which is often the case, meditation in combination with energy work is profound. Spirit- Connection to Yourself / Life Purpose Examples Include: Practices that nourish your connection to your higher self, your life purpose, and Spirit/God/Universe Many of us are so busy in the doing, we neglect to notice how we are being. We end up feeling disconnected and lose sight of why we are "here". Discovering and then consistently feeding your spiritual self will feed your energetic well and replenish you. Examples of this include anything that brings you a sense of connection, peace, well-being, and joy. Petting your furry friend, being in spiritual community, prayer, meditation, writing, cooking for your family, calling instead of texting, meeting up instead of engaging on social media....and so much more. Go explore and discover!! Managing your energy starts with awareness. With awareness you have choice as to where you focus your attention -- your energy. Whatever you focus your attention on will grow larger in your life. Where your attention goes, your energy flows. As you reflect on each of these 3 areas- body, mind and spirit- notice the places where your energy is fed and the places where your energy gets depleted. Then take action! Nothing changes unless we act. I support you, Stephanie  Unless and until we shed the past, we will keep repeating it in the present. Since we create the future in the present, we will keep getting the same things we have always gotten. For most of us at this time, that isn't what we want.
That's one reason we feel "stuck". In order to truly live a life of peace, prosperity, and connection - to become masters at manifestation - at some point we must shed the past. Fully. When I say past I mean other lifetimes, and the ancestral, cultural, karmic, and childhood imprints we absorb. This is why I LOVE energy healing, specifically shamanic energy healing. When approached with an open mind, shamanic energy healing is a highly effective way of making the unconscious conscious --and healing deeply rooted trauma that we cannot always get to in talk therapy. When I say trauma it can be anything from abuse to limiting beliefs such as, "I am not good enough/I am not worthy". All of us operate from beliefs that we absorbed somewhere along the way. Our beliefs filter everything and create our thoughts, words, deeds...our life. Powerful stuff! When we aren't getting what we want in life, it's usually a combination of self limiting beliefs + confusion. Whatever trauma we experienced / inherited / absorbed feeds the belief and keeps us confused/stuck. Once we recognize the belief and clear the energy, we can create a new belief that aligns with the life we have and want today. Having said this, some people don't understand "how" energy healing works. That was me a few decades ago. Not anymore! On some level, all of us "know" we are energy beings. We enter a room and feel a vibe without a word being exchanged. That is energy! We know this. We experience it everyday. For some, the desire to see everything as concrete blinds us from truly seeing what is underneath...in the energetic. As a result, we don't get to the root of the trauma, and we spin. Or worse, we spend many decades and dollars on going through the same loop trying to "talk" it out. I have been there. Shamanic energy healing sessions allow us to shed the past and create a new future in the present! Specifically, shamanic energy healing includes tools such as journeying to meet a power animal/spirit guide, energetic extractions, and soul retrieval to restore us to our true essence. Since we are all part of the energetic web, removing and healing unwanted energies restores our strength. As we shed the past, we remove the energetic layers that block us from creating the life we desire. With on-going sessions, we learn how to align our conscious mind (thinking mind) with our subconscious mind (emotional mind - where beliefs are stored). This is when it gets really fun as we learn how to become masters at manifestation. You're worth it! Stephanie >>>Book a Session Here |
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