Ego In Relationships
Are you aware of your ego & how it impacts your relationships?
It can be impossible to understand and navigate your ego, without knowing exactly what it is - but this natural part of all of us doesn't have to be such a mystery...
And what if I told you nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know?
Does that help you understand why certain patterns continue to show up in your relationships and in life?
And do you ever notice how the ego energy is contagious? Sometimes it seems everyone is operating from ego and there is no peace..
Fascinating questions...all pointing to deeper levels of understanding if we choose to see them as such...and to answer them.
What is ego and how does it impact relationships?
Simply said, our ego shows up whenever we are identified with something: a role, relationship, thing, viewpoint, etc.
When this happens, some of us get angry, explosive even, and react. Others shut down. We get the exact opposite outcome most of us long for which is peace, love, understanding...happiness.
Understanding ego and how it shows up in relationship can be complicated. Yet if we want peaceful relationships, it does us well to learn about ego. In this way, when it shows up, we can respond instead of react.
Since awareness is the foundation for transformation, how do we know when we are caught in the grip of ego?
Key examples include:
*arguing/conflict/drama as a theme in our life
*need to be right, making another person wrong
*identifying with mental positions/beliefs, keeping us stuck and closed to another's point of view
*emotional pain that feels disproportionately large compared to the event/situation (pain body)
*anger, outbursts, emotional reactivity including disconnecting and avoiding
*in some cases physical violence
To help you understand ego, I discuss each of the above and introduce you to the concept of "pain body", as taught by Eckhart Tolle in my podcast episode (link below).
According to Eckhart, "the pain body is an energy field within you that sporadically takes you over because it needs to experience more emotional pain for it to feed on and replenish itself. It will try to control your thinking and make it deeply negative. It loves your negative thoughts, since it resonates with their frequency and so can feed on them. It will also provoke negative emotional reactions in the people close to you, especially your partner, in order to feed on the ensuing drama and emotional pain."
Clearly, having an understanding of ego and how to deal with it as it relates to our pain body is important!!
Why does ego show up? It's part of the human condition my friends.
Understanding ego and how it works will help you cultivate deeper and healthier relationships both with yourself and others.
In this juicy episode I help demystify ego by explaining in more detail what ego is, how to identify it (especially in relationship), learn from it, and what to do when we are caught in its grip.
Let's GO Ego...Let Go!!!
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