Feeling unclear, disconnected, maybe even down?
Take time for stillness. We live in a non-stop and noisy world. Add our busy mind to that and a perfect storm ensues. Over time the noise drowns out our own voice. In stillness lives your connection to yourself, your desires...your truth. In stillness lies your connection to pure potential and the creativity of the universe of which we are a part. One of our favorite ways to access stillness is with meditation and energy healing practices. Whether you have a formal meditation / energy practice or not, simply sitting in silence or watching nature connects you to stillness and the energy of life itself. It rejuvenates, restores and renews us. Many of us continue (and will continue) to experience times of transition in work/life and much uncertainty. That energy can cause us to feel fearful and frenetic--- like things are speeding up and we have no control. Most of us find this energy unsettling and our nervous system reacts with fight, flight or freeze. My friends, this is when we need stillness the most!! What I have learned is that in stillness practiced over time, there is incredible inner movement. Inner movement generates and attracts outer movement. In fact, the more still we become, the more things move "on their own" to support exactly what we need/want/desire.. without having to put forth much effort. Magic? Maybe. Want Support? >>>Connect with Me "It's in relationship with self and other that we heal...when we have the courage to...cause it takes lots of courage to create peace. It's worth it." -Stephanie :)
Previously I have written about transformation and Shamanism. Today I want to revisit relationship success...and in some cases "pain". Relationships are one of my favorite topics. They have posed the greatest challenges for me, and have also been the most gratifying part of my life. Hmmm...a paradox? Yes! I love a good puzzle :) Note: Above picture was taken in 2021 on my birthday with sis, mom, and husband. These are examples of relationships I have advocated for, been insanely challenged by, healed, and totally appreciate today. Because of this, I want to help you heal your relationships!!! It's so darn worth it. Think about it: 1. At some point or another, everything we do involves others...relationships of some type, at some depth, for some period of time. You may erroneously fantasize you can do it all alone, forever. I respectfully disagree. Even if you do it alone, you still have to be in relationship with YOU. More on that... 2. Our ability to have good (peaceful, positive, prosperous, playful, present) relationships is a foundation for our well-being. I talk about this in more detail in my book Reclaiming Joy. 3. Relationships show us where we are on our spiritual path and can become our life long spiritual practice, aka our greatest teacher. Perhaps at some points in your life, relationships caused so much pain, you felt you "didn't" want to engage. Understandable, yet not sustainable. Maybe you experienced feeling like relationships were more trouble than they were worth. Makes sense. As humans we don't like "pain". And yet, pain, suffering, and trauma is how most of us learn. By learn I mean, "wake up". Why do we continue to do this to our self? Why are we so resistant to waking up? The cool thing is, we can choose to awaken. We can choose to stop having to experience so much pain!!! By awaken I mean we choose to become more conscious, aka, deal with our stuff!!! As you may have experienced, if we don't deal with our stuff...life has a funny way of dealing with it for us. And when life deals with it for us, it is often more painful than necessary. Something big has to happen to get our attention and then we act like something happened to us...when in reality, we simply have chosen to stay asleep at the wheel of our life. Perhaps this sounds harsh. Well, I am here to provoke your truth, and living your best self. That said, this isn't about right and wrong...good or bad.... It's not about judging ourselves and others and playing in that triangle of dis-empowerment I have spoken about --- victim, rescuer, perpetrator. Part of awakening means we understand, through personal experience (knowing) a natural human tendency to want to avoid pain at all costs, thinking it will go away. The flaw in this line of thought is...whatever we avoid, will ultimately surface. You know the line, "whatever we resist, persists". What to do? First, recognize the primary relationship we have--- and therefore have to heal--- is with ourselves. Re-read it. Truth. Second, commit to a daily practice to connect body, mind, spirit. You know I love meditation for this! Third, build your awareness of YOU & get support. Start paying attention to your self talk and therefore your beliefs about relationships. It's only through awareness that we can transform. Ask yourself questions: Are relationships painful? Are relationships joyful? Some? All? Depends on person, situation, what you want? Am I attached, expecting, judging? ***What is the relationship I have with myself? Love? Hate? At some point, hopefully not on our deathbed, we realize that we all need people, it's no so serious, and it doesn't need to be so darn painful...if we are willing to commit to awakening. Working with people on healing relationship to self and other is the foundation for my life's work. I do it with shamanic energy healing sessions and with my mentorship program. I see you. You matter. It's possible to heal & be happy! I did it. You can too. Namaste, Stephanie What does it mean to live well?
For some of us it's about what we are "doing", for others it's about how we are being...and for the enlightened ones, it's both! Both means showing up rooted in how we are being (happy, sad, peaceful, positive, grateful, angry, frustrated, negative, etc.) and that informs our doing (the human tasks of work, interact, eat, chores, rest, etc). If we are wise, we realize that how we show up, our being, creates the experience we (and others) have in the doing. Are we willing to become more aware of how we are being in order to shift what we choose to do? For example, if we are being sad, maybe it's time to love ourself more by focusing on our blessings; or maybe it's time to reach out for support; The point is -- as we tune in to ourself, we have unlimited wisdom...which led me (Stephanie) to pick a card for us below... If you are looking for Sanctuary TLC, we are here for you! >>>BOOK NOW In this episode of Mind the Gap Stephanie acknowledges, affirms, and reminds you — you are good enough! 💯
Many of us start out setting goals for our life and when the obstacles / challenge arise we want to quit or we do quit. Example- we say we want the loving partnership - maybe we even date— and yet we are “still” alone because we say “there’s no good men/women” available. Really! No way. That’s a limiting belief. Somewhere in our subconscious we believe there is lack/not enough good people. Maybe we even feel we aren’t good enough (attractive enough/ young enough, smart enough) yet we “blame” it on something else. Unless we are aware of our limiting beliefs, in this case, we will continue to be alone. Here’s the deal. We all have Limiting beliefs. I am not good enough is one that most of us carry. It goes back to childhood and extends / gets energized in adulthood. Stephanie discusses why / how these beliefs show up and what to do to free yourself of them! She also offers coaching support to help you uncover and clear these limiting beliefs and the negative energy associated with them so you can manifest the life of your dreams. You’re doing great. Keep going! You’re good enough. Let’s celebrate that! Let’s go. >>>Listen Here Spiritual Awakening
"Be grateful for the sleepless nights because they help us awaken..." - Stephanie What is spiritual awakening? Why does it hurt so much at times? How can we live our current life while also moving and growing into new ways of being? In this Mind the Gap Podcast episode, Stephanie shares how to use life as a spiritual practice, and what is required to build a foundation of support as you begin to "wake up". She shares that sleepless nights point to underlying things that are trying to get our attention... Stress doesn't wake us up. Stress is simply a result of what is out of balance in our life. Stephanie also gives ways to navigate the gap while growing from where you are -- to where you want to be. >>>Listen Here |
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