"We are not limited by what we don't have. We are limited by what we don't use." -Bob Goff
Lately in my conversations with people there is a recurring theme: shift.
More specifically, the need/desire/want for a shift in...something.
What I am noticing in these interactions is how often we get caught in the false belief that shift happens outside of us. Meaning, we are looking to something or someone outside of ourselves to make it better so to speak. We often waste energy suffering while we "wait". We feel stuck, agitated, depressed. It's a rabbit hole that we can get lost in, and drag others down with us, if we are not mindful.
Here's what I want to suggest.
Instead of looking and waiting for the shift to happen on the outside (i.e: job, home, relationship, financial situation, family, etc), look inside.
Let me explain.
When we shift our perspective and look within, we prevent further energy drain in the form of suffering. We open ourselves to receive clarity about what we can do. We move from ego/lack mindset to divine/prosperity mindset.
As we move from lack to prosperity, we discover we have what we need inside of us to take action. The energy shifts from dis-connected /dis-empowering to connected / empowering.
Why is this internal shift important?
Shifting our awareness within helps us access the deeper "I", which is the place of stillness some experience during meditation, writing, running... When we access the deeper "I" we bring together the dimension of stillness and thinking. This process opens the doorway to empowered action. Insights and choices arise that were once blocked when we were caught in ego/lack mindset.
I don't have children, yet. For a long time, I didn't want children. I chose to focus on building my career and becoming an "adult" myself to say the least!
Today, I want children in my life. I am open to how that happens.
At times when people ask me about having children, and then hear I am 43, etc, etc, it can be "depressing" --- if I allow myself to get caught in the belief of what I don't have...children.
Sometimes I create my own suffering with thoughts about not have/will never have/impossible etc.
Following me? I trust some of you understand what I am saying here. Pretty much when we focus on what we don't have, and think we ought to have, whatever that is, we suffer. The greater the gap between what we don't think we have...and what we want...the greater the suffering. So, let's mind the gap and work to reduce and close it so we return to inner peace (soul congruence - more on this another time)
In talking with people and reflecting on my own inquiry about children, I realized it makes so much more sense to focus on what we can do about it! I am a triple Leo so action is in my blood anyway.
When I began shifting my attention inward, accessing the "deeper I", I got clear on what I am not using in my desire to have children in my life. From this I realized I want to help foster families deal with challenging feelings and navigating the parent/child relationship. Relationships are one of my favorite topics and I have many tools to offer in service to this. Voila. Stillness. Clarity. Action.
If you are feeling the suffering of wanting something outside of you to shift, please, stop it. Try what I have explained here. Shift your focus within. Access the "deeper I". Discover what have within right now that you can use in service to what you want to shift outside. Then take empowered action. Be patient. Everything is a process.
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Relationship Pain by Stephanie
"It's in relationship we heal...when we have the courage to...cause it takes lots of courage to create peace." -Stephanie :)
Last week I wrote about transformation and Shamanism.
This week I want to share about relationship pain.
Relationships are one of my favorite topics. They have posed the greatest challenges for me, and have also been the most gratifying part of my life. Hmmm...a paradox? Yes! And I love a good puzzle :)
Because of this, I want to help you heal your relationships!!! It's so darn worth it.
And when I say heal, we always have 3 options: accept, change, leave.
Think about it:
1. At some point or another, everything we do involves others...relationships of some type at some depth for some period of time. You may erroneously fantasize you can do it all alone, forever. I disagree.
2. Our ability to have good (peaceful, positive, prosperous, playful, present) relationships is a foundation for our well-being.
3. Relationships show us where we are on our spiritual path and can become our life long spiritual practice, greatest teacher.
Perhaps at some points in your life, relationships caused so much pain, you felt you "didn't" want to engage. Understandable yet not sustainable.
Maybe you experienced feeling like relationships were more trouble than they were worth. Makes sense.
As humans we don't like "pain".
And yet, pain, suffering, and trauma is how most of us learn.
By learn I mean, "wake up".
Why do we continue to do this to our self?
Why are we so resistant to waking up?
The cool thing is, we can choose to awaken.
We can choose to stop having to experience so much pain!!!
By awaken I mean we choose to become more conscious, aka, deal with our stuff!!!
Cause if we don't deal with our stuff...life has a funny way of dealing with it for us.
And when life deals with it for us, it is often more painful than necessary. Something big has to happen to get our attention and then we act like something happened to us...when in reality, we simply have chosen to stay asleep at the wheel of our life.
Perhaps this sounds harsh. Well, I am here to provoke your truth, and living your best self. That said, this isn't about right and wrong...good or bad.... It's not about judging ourselves and others and playing in that triangle of dis-empowerment I have spoken about --- victim, rescuer, perpetrator.
Part of awakening means we understand, through personal experience (knowing) a natural human tendency to want to avoid pain at all costs, thinking it will go away. The flaw in this line of thought is...whatever we avoid, will ultimately surface. You know the line, "whatever we resist, persists".
What to do?
In addition to getting serious about a daily meditation practice to focus the mind and center the emotional body--- start paying attention to your self talk and therefore your beliefs about relationships. It's only through awareness that we can transform. Ask yourself questions...
Are relationships painful?
Are relationships joyful?
Some? All? Depends on person, situation, what you want?
Am I attached, expecting, judging?
Working with people on healing relationships both on the meditation cushion and in shamanic energy sessions is one of my all time passions.
At some point, hopefully not on our deathbed, we realize that we all need people, it's no so serious, and it doesn't need to be so darn painful...if we are willing to commit to awakening.
Transformation & Shamanism by Stephanie
"Not everything that can be faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed that is not faced." -James Baldwin
Last week I wrote transformation through the body.
Are you paying attention? What are you noticing?
This week I want to share about transformation as it relates to Shamanism and Shamanic Energy Healing.
Why do I want to share?
One, many people are experiencing life transitions: death, divorce, job loss, confusion, disconnection, depression...to name a few and they are looking for a healthy, conscious way to deal.
Two, Shamanism gives us powerful tools -- meaning we feel empowered to navigate these transitions.
Three, Shamanism is considered to be one of the most ancient forms of healing practiced by humans worldwide. It is not a religion. It is a way of being- living in harmony with nature and working with the natural forces of life to restore balance.
Since life is always changing, the ability to use practices that bring us back into harmony with our-self and the world around us is not only effective, it is healing in itself.
Who will benefit from shamanic energy healing?
People who are ready to embrace life transitions with presence in a positive, loving, peaceful, and empowering way.
What type of shamanic energy healing sessions are offered?
You can learn more about sessions here.
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Empowered Video Series with Stephanie
Part 4: Inner Peace, Pathway to Thriving
How do we use meditation and energy tools to cultivate inner peace & thrive?
Over the past 4 weeks Stephanie has shared meditation and energy management tools to help you thrive. This week she shares how these tools come together to help us create inner peace and stability in our life. She also shares her intention of deepening these practices with an upcoming group program.
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"I believe that to have world peace we must first have inner peace. Those who are naturally serene, at peace with themselves, will be open towards others. I think this is where the very foundation of universal peace lies." -His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Note: This post also appears on Stephanie's ThrivingYouThrivingLife website.
Empowered Video Series with Stephanie
Part 3: Energetic Protections
How can we use energetic protections to empower us & help us stay on the path to thriving?
Burning incense & palo santo, lighting candles, and getting regular energy healing sessions help clear & protect our energy field. And there are other ways to protect your energy that Stephanie shares in this video.
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"The tragedy of life is not so much what men suffer, but rather what they miss." -Thomas Carlyle
Note: This blog also appears on Steph's thrivingyouthrivinglife website.